Workshops for Good
Intervention Help is Our Goal
Support Your Recovery is What We Do!
Since our beginning, our mission has been to help families do together what they could not do on their own.
Our work reflects our belief that recovery and change are the beginning of the solution to the challenge of addiction and other codependent and dangerous behaviors.
We believe that our Intervention approach creates the foundation for real change steeped in respect, love and hope.
We work with those addicted, leading with experience, strength and care.
Our After Care program blends accountability with relapse prevention work for the addicted individual upon treatment completion, and for the intervention network provides on-going support and pr.ocess..
HOW WE HELP
Motivated people ask better questions, and as a result, they get better answers.
We take time to get to know you, your family and friends who will be involved in the intervention. We create a Family Map, we immerse ourselves in the history and story of your loved one and their addiction. Every aspect of the addiction is examined, discussed, and processed prior to the intervention.
We know that you, the family and friends, have unmatched power! No matter how you feel, no matter how scared, angry or insecure you may be, this fact is true. Intelligent Interventions makes use of a variety of intervention models, which begins change and colors everything we do as a team. Our team assists you all in beginning dynamic change; right here and right NOW.
2. Our Interventions are SMART Interventions
We don’t give up, nor do we back down.
You have taken the first steps, you have started the path toward the intervention. So change has already begun! The goal of the Intervention Team is for your loved one to accept help. The help is what is called an Intelligent Intervention.
That means you’ve got to have that plan already lined up. And yes, it is up to you to line it up. Loved ones don’t get to choose, nor would they, even if given the opportunity.
There’s a very high rate of denial with most negative behaviors. People don’t want to accept that they have an addiction problem.... a gambling addiction, a spending problem, or any problem for that matter. People in denial don’t usually search out help on their own. So it makes perfect sense that you’ll be the one to find the right program. Yes, you. You will also be the one explaining to your loved one that you’re not equipped to help her and she needs someone, or some program, who’s trained to deal with these kinds of things. You do not fill your own teeth or set your own broken bone (we hope), you find a professional who has done many of that procedure and allow them to do what they are trained to do! The same is true for an intervention. There are proven methods of helping your loved one open up and accept that they need help. We are here to help you every step of the way.
Prior to the meeting, you and some of your team members must do some research. You’ll want to identify a therapist, program, or support group that will get your loved one back on the right track. You may be asking if your loved one REALLY needs rehab. This info may help you determine the signs of someone who does.
Selecting the right program does take some legwork, and it depends on the nature of the problem you’re dealing with.
The circumstances that precipitate selecting a change plan vary by the individual, and the problem at hand.
You’ve got to zero in on what kind of help you need.
Is your loved one a teenager with a food addiction problem?
A friend in financial and legal issues because of a gambling problem?
A spouse who needs marriage counseling?
A relative with anger management issues?
A child who is depressed?
A stressed-out mom because of competing responsibilities at home, work and school?
The change plan can include simpler sources of help:
a credit counseling program at your local credit union,
a weight-loss group in your community or at a local hospital;
a tutoring program at school;
a marriage counseling program;
a support group; sessions with a counselor/therapist;
or stress management classes.
These are all important and effective ways to provide professional resources to change someone you love.
To make this part of the Intervention easy for you can find many programs, treatment centers, counseling services, support groups, and others on this website. You can also check the internet for local resources and to get information. Word of mouth is another effective way to find a therapist or a program. Ask your friends, relatives or co-workers.
You might be surprised at how open people are about having been in some sort of counseling. At this point, go down all avenues, make a list of all possibilities, research them, and learn more about their approaches. Ask questions, listen, take notes.
3. We Act Love is the primary motivator for change.
We educate, organize, and then rally the Intervention Team. We invite your Identified Loved One (ILO) into the process. We engage him or her to change their resistance to acceptance to begin real change.
Once scheduled, your Interventionist and our team will walk through the intervention every step of the way. We are not a “one-day miracle” but instead a bridge back to life over our long term engagement. We rally to begin the change up front, then stay engaged as a group to nurture lasting change.
Intervention Specialists Offer Recovery Support
How to Help the One You Love Overcome Addiction
Family & friends hold unmatched power to help a loved one begin change and then make it stick.
Our "Family Assist in Recovery" Program provides education and resources to help loved ones reclaim natural and intended roles (Wife – Parent – Husband – Friend – Sister – Brother) by stepping out of unintended ones (Cop – Banker – Apologist – Counselor – Judge).
For so many, helping your loved one enter rehab begs the question: “What do we do now?”
Take These Three Steps
1. Craft Your Circle of Change
There is strength in numbers.
Let’s say it again…There is strength in numbers. We circle the wagons to accomplish together what we cannot apart. There is tremendous power in relationships, so we tap this power to begin change, building unwavering consensus in the midst of crisis.
2. Work Through “No”
“NO” is not the end of the conversation.
Change doesn't stick by accident. “NO” is a conversation starter, not the final answer. We walk through resistance to foster family-wide growth alongside your struggling loved one. Our Continuum of Contact allows us to respond and grow, not react and worry.
3. Enable Positive Change Enable Positive Change!
Our weekly Family Class sessions are critical to success. Time together counts like nothing else in building connected-ness and consensus. Give us an hour each week (we make it “sacred” time) as we gather together in a vibrant online and phone environment to build-out and build-on the powerful changes already begun.
The antidote to negative enabling?
Enabling positive change.
Our Family Assist in Recovery Engagement Works from Day 1 through Day 183
Foundations: Family Class
Foundations: Relapse Prevention
Foundations: Recovery Monitoring
Family Mapping: History Matters
Family Mapping: Trigger Tracking
Family Mapping: Owning Your Story
Roles, Goals + Expectations
Home Safe: Securing the Nest
Short-Term Goal Crafting
Role Restructuring Work
Long-Term Goal Building
WHEN TO HELP
When to Seek Substance Abuse Help?
When is Enough Enough?
When Do You Ask for Help with an Addiction?
Many of us have a loved one, a family member, or a close friend who finds himself or herself in trouble and needs help. Allow me to share with you some proof of this, gathered from government data, addiction centers, national surveys, and health organizations:
1 in 6 Americans report that they “drink too much,” while 1 in 20 say they have problems with extreme drinking.
1 in 38 Americans have an eating disorder. One out of 10 are men; 9 out of 10 are women.
1 in 43 Americans have a gambling problem.
1 in 15 Americans regularly use illicit substances.
1 in 20 Americans are currently dealing with depression.
1 in 5 American adults smoke cigarettes.
1 in 13 Americans suffer from an unhealthy Internet dependency.
These are mind-boggling numbers by any standards!
Looking over these startling statistics makes you wonder:
Why do people do things that they know are harmful, or deadly?
There are numerous reasons why people do harmful things to themselves, including peer pressure, stress, boredom, thrill seeking, depression, adolescent rebellion, family breakups, economic stress, crime, relief from emotional or physical pain, and being out of touch with one’s own spiritual balance and inner harmony. And if a drug like alcohol, cocaine, or tobacco is involved, and you ask people why they do it, they will give you different answers. “I enjoy it.” “It perks me up.” “It calms me down.” And so on. Be it conscious or unconscious, dangerous or not, people do what they do for reasons.
The most difficult question for us is: Should we step in or step aside? It’s normal to be hesitant when trying to help friends or family members engaged in troublesome or destructive behavior. You don’t want to intrude, but you want to do what’s in their best interest, especially when people are seen as hurting themselves or others.
Do the Math
Self- destructive behavior always hurts, and may eventually kill. Note some jarring statistics from the Centers for Disease Control (CDC): It costs each smoker in the U.S. nearly $4,000 dollars a year to smoke. In years of life, it costs adult male and female smokers an average of 13.2 and 14.5 years of life, respectively, because they smoked. Tobacco use is responsible for approximately 438,000 deaths each year.
Recent data estimate that about 400,000 deaths are associated with obesity each year in the United States. The Centers for Disease Control has released a study citing that the cost to treat obesity- related diseases has soared— to a mile-high $147 billion, double that of the cost just ten years before.
The cost of my own addiction was nearly a million dollars. Over the twenty years of active addiction, I spent $40,000 a year.
Between the alcohol, the pills, the coke and the crystal, the cigarettes and the nonsense, it was buckets and buckets of dough.
That’s just the dollar cost and doesn’t count lost wages, productivity, dreams, schemes, or what- ifs.
~ Brad Lamm
These are just the numbers. Factor in the personal, emotional and spiritual costs of addiction and it is staggering.
If your loved one has an addiction or suffers other serious problems, you and everyone else in the family will be affected at some level.
Members of a family, for example, often experience loneliness, frustration, fear, anger, and shame. They may feel hopeless, angry and resentful toward the whole situation and then feel guilty for having these feelings. Some family members may also use alcohol, drugs, or gambling themselves as a way of coping with the problems in their family and to neutralize the emotional pain. Children may feel insecure or unloved. In house holds dominated by addictions or ruled by any sort of chaos, the children’s safety— as well as their psychological and emotional development— may be at risk.
You’ve got to ask yourself:
How much pain are you experiencing over this situation?
Do you wonder how you’re holding yourself together?
What is it doing to your kids?
Emotional pain comes in many forms— depression, anxiety, or feeling neglected, misunderstood, sad, trapped, vulnerable, hopeless, or just plain worn out.
You’ve absolutely got to take your emotional temperature and recognize that you’re hurting. The emotional pain just isn’t worth it. When you get this, I believe you’ll be strengthened and motivated to move your loved one in the direction of meaningful change.
You, and other family members may suffer health issues brought on by the stress of dealing with your addicted loved one.
Of course, there are financial costs; missed work, lost jobs, ruined careers, all from dealing with your loved one’s addiction.
The costs of addiction are enormous. You’ve got to step in, not only for the person in trouble but to stop the deterioration of your life— and everybody else in it. Here’s the deal: Anything that happens to one person has consequences for the people around him. For example, when a family member becomes depressed, addicted, obese, or what ever, the effect of that behavior is not localized within the depressed person, but rather ripples through the family to affect all its members. The collateral damage and it's effects are real, and they are serious.
Collateral damage is right!
You Are Almost Ready…
How To Be Sure
Pay attention to the behavior in your loved one, partner, employee, or relative. Has it changed for the worse recently?
Has your loved one:
become moody or aloof
begun picking fights with you
been irritable or angry all the time
started having trouble getting along with bosses, colleagues, family, or friends
gained or lost weight
lost interest in previously enjoyed activities
seem confused or forgetful
neglecting major areas of his or her life (health, dental needs, personal cleanliness)
lost a job
begun borrowing money
begun covering up and lying about behavior
committed a crime to get money for the addiction
Now for YOU!
Ask yourself :
Ask, then answer these questions:
What is this behavior doing to you?
Are you depressed, anxious, sad, or otherwise a basket case?
Do you experience errors in judgment, accidents, and poor physical and mental health?
Is it your sense that events are out of control and potentially dangerous?
Are you having money problems?
Are you satisfied with the way things are?
Once you think through these questions, you need to do some writing. Writing is a way of clarifying what you already know against the inner voices of indecision and avoidance. When you write things down, everything starts to add up. You’ll access your own opinion about what to do next.
We have all seen movies and TV shows about intervention. So you may have an idea of what you THINK an intervention is. With our Intervention method, we get the most resistant loved one to accept help. You have taken the first step by simply finding our website and reading this far, so take a moment to inhale a deep breath and congratulate yourself.
You are a brave person and deserve support.
We know this: intervention can be based in love, respect and hope rather than fear, anger and rage.
Here at Intelligent Interventions we have a strict NO SHAME, NO BLAME, NO DRAMA policy.